Self-confidence affects ALL our choices
Sometimes I think of life as a never-ending butterfly effect. Every choice, every action, every step we take leads us into one future, and cancels out other potential versions of what could be.
It’s a good thing we’re not constantly aware of this, otherwise we might not even undertake the smallest thing in fear of what we might miss out on (or what might happen). But even with a lot of this happening unconsciously, it’s powerful to bring our awareness to the fact that we are CONSTANTLY CHOOSING. Even not doing anything is a choice - with consequences.
When awareness is brought to our actions and choices, one thing that sticks out is how we come to the things we do. The drive behind them.
The choices we make can be influenced by passion, creativity, dreams, the will to make a difference. But they can also be the result of stress, anxiety, fear, beliefs we have about ourselves… The truth is, our choices are complicated, and the result of a mix of all the above (and more!).
Self-confidence is one of those influences.
The way we feel about ourselves, the beliefs we have about what we’re capable of, influences what we decide to do, and not do. Self-confidence affects ALL our choices.
This is also where society comes in. Gender pay gaps, unemployment among minority groups, lack of access to education and opportunities, bias against certain identities… it all affects the self-confidence of the ones who are subject to it. It’s important to point out, because self-confidence is not just your responsibility, society plays a BIG part in it. Systems need to change.
However, self-confidence is also an inside job. If we wait to feel *ready* to do something, we might miss a great deal of opportunities, exciting adventures, and potential butterfly flapping life paths.
I want to invite you to think about your choices from a different perspective. To look at them in relation to your self-confidence.
If self-confidence wasn’t an issue, how different would your choices be?
What would you ask for? Say “no” or “yes” to? What space, voice, success would you claim unapologetically?