This sign was outside a club in London. It really makes me smile. What simple but great guidance. We were off to see @normanjaymbe. My friend and I had spent the day mooching around different parts of the city and it’s suburbs, chatting like there was no tomorrow, drinking cocktails and afternoon napping for the *late disco*. Good times indeed. I am enjoying the slower pace of lockdown, no rush, no cars, no real sense of urgency *and* at the same time I’m looking forward to trips away, the buzz of a city, the incessant chatter of friends and the busyness that is just enough but not too much. I recognise I am extremely fortunate. I have all the basic needs in place; clean air, water, food, shelter. I am safe in my home, in myself, my work and my health. I feel loved and a sense of belonging within my family, my friendships and intimate relationships. I feel connected at a deep level despite not being physically connected right now. I am always working towards becoming who I am. Towards both knowing this and feeling this and integrating those two truths. It is one thing to step back and look at who you are, to understand your values and admire (yes admire) your qualities and entirely another thing to really *feel* those. To have that distinct felt sense, deep within your bones of who you truly are. To the therapists, coaches, mentors, healers and learners (those who have been doing the work on themselves) you will know I’m describing Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. A theory of ‘human motivation’ written in 1943 and which has stood the test of time to become a world wide recognised model of human growth and all the essential parameters within. Here’s the thing. Although I see I have reached the top (I’ll post the image in stories) I have worked hard to get there. The continual growth, learning and evolving never stops. What I feel now heading towards fifty is not what I will feel in ten or twenty years time. I embrace that. What I knew at twenty is not what I knew at thirty nor what I knew at forty but it was still valid. All of my experiences were valid and yours too. You are so worthy of growth and healing of repair and recovery. I hope you choose yourself.